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28. Being Single

It’s that time of year when everyone talks about being single….

This weeks episode focuses on the positives of being single, how it is viewed in retrospect and the present and how platonic relationships can often mirror what we’re looking for in a romantic relationship.

I also discuss:

(1:20) Opening

(3:08) The counter-argument to ‘being single sucks’

(3:45) Relationships in retrospect, the differences between ‘then’ and ‘now’, and how there are different things to focus on that don’t bring up feelings of loneliness

(5:10) How being single doesn’t drop into conversation the same way being in a relationship does

(5:40) The old ‘you’ll find someone’, ‘someone will snap you up’ or ‘I can’t believe you’re single’.

(7:00) The notion that sometimes actively seeking relationships doesn’t increase the likelihood of you entering into one

(8:45) Bad relationships (especially when it begins online)

(9:30) How time-management fits into all relationships

(12:10) The benefits of being single, such as having the ability to take time for yourself freely

(13:45) The benefits of purely platonic relationships and how they can often mirror what we’re looking for in a relationship

(19:30) The opportunities you can have when single

(18:10) If you’re single and you don’t want to be

Welcome to Dark Coffee, the podcast that starts engaging and approachable conversations around mental health.

Join wellbeing advocate, Alice Lyons, as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

Dark Coffee aims to create an open environment to explore dark topics with curiosity, compassion and courage to empower people to build their mental strength, resilience and sense of connection.

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