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23. ‘Strong’ Men + Underdogs

Often, when it comes to discussing emotions, men can consider vulnerability a weakness rather than a strength. The concept of sharing emotions, from a mental health condition perspective or generally, is viewed with apprehension and avoidance. In today’s episode, I discuss the benefits of men being more open about their emotions, how we view underdogs in popular culture and how this relates to the conversation around men’s emotions, touching on the benefits that open discussion can have on those around men in strong leadership positions.

I also discuss:

  • Why men can perceive emotions as weak
  • How men speaking openly about their emotions may encourage other men to do so, creating a better environment for everyone
  • The importance of the underdog in popular culture and how it can relate to the debate around men and emotion
  • The value of struggling and showing genuine emotion, rather than seeking to show only perfection
  • How love can be ‘muscular’ (showing support by being a source of strength)
  • Why showing vulnerability is relatable and beneficial

Welcome to Dark Coffee, the podcast that starts engaging and approachable conversations around mental health.

Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.

Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity, compassion and courage to empower people to build their mental strength, resilience and sense of connection.

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Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations – UK

Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. Free helpline available round the clock. Text – 116123.  Call – 08457 909090  Email – Website –

Mind: Support and information for anyone suffering from a mental health issue. 0300 123 3393 Website –

Saneline: Practical information, crisis care and emotional support to people affected by mental health concerns. Helpline: 0845 767 8000, open daily from 6pm – 11pm.


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