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76. How to handle difficult times when you feel powerless


It would be an understatement to say that we’ve all struggled over the past year. But how can we keep pushing through difficult times when we’re already feeling tired, overwhelmed or fed up?


Today, Alice (briefly) explains the science behind our survival instinct, why we should make friends with it, but also why we shouldn’t let it sit in the drivers’ seat for too long.


Also discussed:


  • how keeping focused on small changes can help steady us in changeable times
  • how our success and wellbeing lies in our everyday habits
  • how to activate our calming nervous system to help us relax and plan our next steps
  • why peer support systems are so important for our wellbeing, especially in times of high stress
  • how talking to fear as if it’s a friend can be surprisingly helpful in gaining control of the situation
  • how self-compassion can help us with our mental health
  • how we have the autonomy and power to change the way we self-regulate, and that we can push through hard times.

Recorded January 2021


Dark Coffee starts brave and bullshit-free conversations around mental health, wellbeing and business.


Join wellbeing advocate Alice Lyons as she attempts to normalise the conversation around mental health, from suicide to satisfaction and everything in between.


Dark Coffee aims to create a safe space to explore dark topics with curiosity and compassion.


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Podcast presented and edited by Alice Lyons.

Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.




Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations – UK


Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. Free helpline available round the clock. Text – 116123.  Call – 08457 909090  Email – Website –


Mind: Support and information for anyone suffering from a mental health issue. 0300 123 3393 Website –


Saneline: Practical information, crisis care and emotional support to people affected by mental health concerns. Helpline: 0845 767 8000, open daily from 6pm – 11pm.