Hello! Welcome to our 70th episode! We hope you’re as excited as we are. In this episode our host Alice Lyons, discusses pain, pleasure and peace and how a book she’s currently reading has both completely blown her mind and inspired her in so many ways.
(1:30) Introduction to the episode
(1:59) Alice has found the secret to wellbeing after reading ‘The Compassionate Mind’ by Paul Gilbert, discussing the theory and original researcher behind it
(3:34) Discussing the 3 main drives that influence our behaviour, explaining what they mean and where they originate from
(5:15) Explaining the soothing and contentment system in more depth and how important it is that we activate this to achieve that feeling of complete wellbeing
(7:41) How can we get a sense of peace in our lives? Alice discusses the barriers to this and how our modern lifestyles can get in the way
(11:15) Alice explains how journaling helps her process her emotions and problems in a calm way
(12:12) Talking will always be so effective for externalising our issues and how working through them with a listener can really help us deal with our pain
(13:48) “often, the things that we want are not what we need” – for example the pleasure-seeking part of our brains may tell us to keep eating chocolate even if we’re full because it can sometimes provide us with some form of comfort
(15:15) Learning how to be compassionate with ourselves and others is a practice. No one is expected to nail this first time, but it’s important to keep trying because we deserve to give ourselves compassion
(16:56) Following the Buddhist principle that knowing we will suffer in life and we should expect this. This does not mean a significant amount of suffering! However, we should expect obstacles throughout life and expecting everything to be perfect puts an unnecessary and unbearable burden on ourselves
(19:09) Concluding thoughts
(20:25) Discussing Dark Coffee, upcoming events, exciting workshops and the new website (which we highly encourage you to check out!)
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Podcast presented by Alice Lyons.
Music Credit: ‘Infinite Landscape’ by Corinne.
Suicide and Emotional Support Organisations – UK
Samaritans: Confidential suicide discussion and emotional support. Free helpline available round the clock. Text – 116123. Call – 08457 909090 Email – firstname.lastname@example.org. Website – www.samaritans.org
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